When it’s time to leave the nest, listen to your elders.

Sometimes you just need a blend to help you move forward. And sometimes you need someone else to make it for you.

This isn’t just a way to share with you the four oils that have accompanied my journey. It’s also to highlight why we need others to help us and why our elders are where it’s at.

In October of 2015, I accompanied my mom to the Alliance of International Aromatherapists conference. This was before I had ever spoken at one of these conferences. I had been working with her for some time at the Atlantic Institute by then, but I was just a few years into being (and feeling) like a professional aromatherapist.

With a small dropper, you can place in about 5-6 drops of essential oil, you can see this still has a small amount of the original oil I put in it.

One person we met there gifted us with these delightful aromatherapy pendants.

I felt it was only right to put something special in it. And if there was anyone I wanted to help me initiate this piece of aroma jewelry, it was Marge Clark.

I don’t know exactly when I met Marge Clark, but I feel like I’ve known her all my life. She and my mom have been colleagues since the 1990’s, and Marge, now running one of the largest and most well-respected independent essential oil companies in America, considers my mom to be one of her first teachers.

Marge has always felt like a grandmother to me. We had a divine encounter in the trade show room at the previous conference in 2013 (my first conference as a bonafide professional—though I had attended many others over the years with my mom). Marge encouraged me to buy a medicine pouch, then she insisted on buying me an oil from someone else’s booth (though she had her own booth there). Within this pouch, she instilled a blessing for me and my work.

She also started to call me the “baby bird” that year.

This encounter affected me deeply. Here I felt I was being welcomed into the aromatic community, and not by my mom, but by someone outside my bloodline.

I was making contact with my spiritline.

So two years later, when I found myself with an empty pendant, I searched for Marge to help me decide what oil to put in it.

Here’s Marge and I at that same conference. The year I asked her to fill my pendant. I visited her booth again after twisting my ankle while dancing the night before.

She chose not one but three oils, and we put a drop of each in my glass pendent.

First she picked Black Spruce, for the deep woodsy scent of the mountains.

Then Neroli, for its softly blooming flower.

Then Bergamot, for its uplifting light.

Lastly, I added Angelica, to keep me grounded while reaching for the heavens. This was inspired by Julia Graves’ presentation on the Doctrine of Signatures, which she gave that year. You can see her book, The Language of Plants, in the picture here.

Together, these oils produced a simple blend, which I wore for a year. I called it “Out of the Nest.”

It was time for that little birdie to step out and start to make its own way, stretching its wings and taking flight.

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It’s been three years since then, and I’d say I’ve done some flying. I’m still working on the making-my-way part, but I know this blend helped propel me into new projects with courage and confidence. I knew I had the support of my whole birdie family behind me.

But that’s enough about me. I want to know about you.

What nest is it time for you to emerge out of? What oils make you feel like flying?

Leave me a comment so I can cheer you on!

Create a new blend for yourself in 2019. Use my oils, or change them out. Start with one drop each and see where it leads you.