Today is the New Moon in Pisces which means I'm now two moons into my 2022 Writing challenge. Last month, I reflected on 10 things I've learned from writing everyday for 1 month.

This time, I'm going to be all Piscean, and dive deep into the mystery of it all.

So much has changed since I began this project. In fact, I'd say I'm going through one of the biggest life transitions I've had to date.

A month ago, it became clear that my marriage was ending. Since then, we've divided our assets, adjusted our living situations, and began the process of filing for divorce. It's resulted in me now living by myself for the first time in the home I own. I haven't really lived here since my Dad suddenly passed away in June of 2020. Mostly, I've stayed with my mom, coming to stay at this house for short periods of time starting last Fall.

There will be no way to know, but I do feel that my commitment to my writing practice has been a part of both the realization of the end of my almost 12 year relationship as well as how I am coping with it.

There were some days that I'd write about what was going on without writing about it. Other days where I used my writing to focus on something else. Either way, I kept showing up and got myself to hit 'publish' with something every day.

Many years before I even met my husband, I wrote a poem about heartbreak where I called writing "my first and faithful love." I still feel that way. Perhaps it's because it's how I relate to myself. Perhaps it's because it connects me to something bigger, the divine, or God or whatever you want to call it.

Writing, for me, is an act of self-love that I can not live without. It's hard saying goodbye to a relationship that you've known for so long. But the gift is the coming home to yourself. Now that I'm not coming home to someone else now (well, except my beloved kitty), I can only come home to myself.

In a time of great transition, it's not too bad of a place to be.

I'd love to know:

The last time you went through a great transition, what were the practices that helped you?
Any advice for someone newly single after a decade-long relationship?