When Someone Upsets You

Remember that when someone upsets you, it's never about you. It's about them and how they feel. It's so hard for our mind to wrap our brains around this but it's true.

If someone cuts you off in traffic, says negative things about you, or doesn't show up when they said they would, it's not about you. It's because they are late, are projecting things they don't like about themselves, or have different priorities.

But the thing is, so do you.

That's why it's so hard to not take these kinds of things personally. We’re all the star of our own story line. We're all our own main character. We're all convinced that it's always about us, because in our mind, it is.

If you can keep that larger picture of how your mind creates the belief that things are about you while also remembering that everyone else is doing the same thing, it makes understanding why other people do the things they so much easier. It saves you the trouble of blaming other people for how you feel and instead just feeling how you feel, investigating where it comes from, and healing it yourself. That's the thing you do have control over.